Lex: Queer & LGBTQ+ Friends 17+

Love and community

I met my partner on this app over a year ago. Neither of us were really looking for a relationship, and I used the app when I first downloaded it to just share my personal thoughts and feelings. After feeling down, I made a post into the ether and my now partner responded with genuine kindness. We started talking and hit it off. Been together for over a year now!

I haven’t used the app too much in the past year though. Every now and then I’ll post about events I’m helping to organize or I’ll ask for recommendations in my area. One thing that I dislike about the app is there’s a LOT of scammers. I was scammed early on when I first started using it over some tickets and have gotten plenty of DMs from accounts that were mysteriously deleted shortly after I ignored them. I know it’s hard to prevent scams on the internet, but I do wish there was a way I could feel more comfortable talking to or meeting people on the app. At this point I don’t use it for anything other than promoting events and my business because I don’t really trust anyone.

I still love that an app like this exists, but I don’t see myself using it very much in the future. Still thankful I found it at the right place and right time because my girlfriend and I are very happy to this day!

On queerbaiting

What I was looking for: a deeply intense friendship in which writers would get accused of queerbaiting if this were a TV show. In which we’d share a future, even if we never shared a bed. In which we’d write love letters like poets write about the moon, to admire, never to possess.

What Lex has given me: a deeply intense romance in which writers would get accused of promoting the gay agenda and seducing children away from traditional family values if this were a TV show. In which we share a future that includes snow days, laundry days, grocery shopping, vacations, inside jokes, food adventures, book discussions, all the profundities and mundanities that comprise the rich and colorful tapestry of lives well-lived, and lots and lots and lots of sex, joyous sex, tender sex, violent sex, make-up sex, wake-up sex, just-met-at-the-airport-an-hour-ago sex, pours-into-your-orifices-like-liquid-gold-and-splatters-your-internal-organs-in-molten-star-stuff sex, leaves-you-bruised-and-trembling-and-sore-for-days sex, ruins-you-for-future-lovers sex. In which we exchange love letters and think pieces, philosophical musings and future plans, and whisper longingly across 3000 miles utterly filthy thoughts of the ways we’d like to lay claim to one other, until we can let our bodies do the talking.

I asked for a chord, and received a symphony. Fair warning to all future users: be careful of what you don’t dare wish for. You might just get it.

Developer Response ,

This is absolutely incredible 🌈✨ infinite thank you's for sharing this with us.

Amazing but needs updates

I love this app. I love that people post everything from iso sex to I’m bored let’s chat gaming. I love that it’s queer focused and the age range and visibility range are massive. (I also love the teal coloring it pops beautifully.)

The vision of this app is gold. It does need some serious updating though. For one thing, the notification badges don’t show up for me (they are enabled in my phone settings). The messaging is glitchy all-around with the view not updating properly after a messages is sent. I’ve also had issues with the app crashing.

The layout could also be more user friendly: switch the tab placement for people’s profiles and your message thread with them. This way swiping left will send you back to your inbox, which is more useful than goin into their profile every time.