OkCupid Dating: Date Singles Ratings and Reviews

Inconsistent

Sometimes intros go through, sometimes they do not. A number of people I’ve connected with me and said they never saw the intro and they even knew exactly where to look for intros. I have had the same experience also. I have been an unpaid member, and then tried being a paid member. There are multiple levels of paid membership which can be confusing. I’m back to being an unpaid member because even as a paid member it’s not working all that well for me. My partner has posted pictures within writing prompts and they do not show up to anyone else, although they do appear in her profile when she looks at it. She has reported this to tech-support and they did nothing about it. I do greatly appreciate the fact that OKC supports non-monogamous dating. And the very detailed questions and answers. A lot of the questions are worded in such a way though that it is difficult to answer them because the questions are vague or potentially confusing like they could be interpreted in completely opposite ways sometimes. And more of them need an intermediate choice instead of just yes or no. Finally, a strange behavior I noticed when we started new profiles not long ago, without any indication of this, the app assumes a person would reject every answer that differs from yours. You have to go back through and review all your answers and the answers you would accept, in order to change this.

Disappointed

I downloaded this app because I was told about the multiple filters available that in the first couple of hours of using it left me flabbergasted. You can choose an array of options to describe the ideal person the same way when you mark some options to describe yourself it makes the process of choosing or rejecting very brief for both ways if you have your criteria very well set up.
The problem is that often you get contacted by people that has nothing to with your preferences, but you may be part of theirs. My question is if queer people can choose not to be seen by straights (yes there’s a box that they can check for that), why not have the same for every other option like have or not children, diet, smoke, drink, drugs... Nothing most annoying than having a filter but being bombarded with messages from smokers, drinkers, meat eaters, parents, monogamic people that aren’t part of your criteria. In less than 24 hours I realized that this app filters aren’t what I expected. I even thoughts that maybe by paying the subscription it would improve but I didn’t take the risk because I believe the algorithm for that is not even built yet.
I’ll keep looking for an app where you only see and be seen by people with the exact same criteria. Maybe it will reduce the chances to meet more people, but not everyone is in the competition mode.

Truthfully

Truthfully, I’m writing this review entirely because I think it may help my chances with the algorithm. I’m being honest because I don’t think that will effect it. OKCupid is all about the algorithm. I’ve had some success with likes and matches, but tried to moderate a friends account, which was shaped very similar to my own and despite A-list account status he saw maybe 2 likes a week. How could that be possible? There are absolutely people that swipe right on everything. OKCupid for whatever reason just wasn’t showing his profile to anyone. He was frequently active, communicating with the very few people he was connected with. As far as my account is concerned I’ll go through a dry spell where I’ll get 2 likes a week, and then get 30 likes in 2 days. The lack of consistency isn’t with my profile, it’s with whether or not OKCupid feels like showing people my profile. OKCupid is better than most online dating sites because there’s more detail on the people you’re meeting. That’s great. But online dating is hard enough and stupid from the perspective of dating in general. We shouldn’t also have to worry about whether our dating site wants to be nice to us or not regarding showing other people our profile, or have to worry about it arbitrarily passively blackballing us.

Married for almost 3 years!

I have used many dating apps, none of them has turned into a marriage. I haven’t been back to this app in more than 4 years, but whenever people ask me where I met my husband, I was proud to recommend them OkCupid. I can’t imagine how people are dating now with Covid going on. But dating is a hard and brutal game. You gotta know yourself before anything else. I can't believe what a team we are and how we worked out, considering we were born in the opposite side of the globe, grew up in completely different culture and with 9 years of age difference. We had 91% compatibility on OkCupid. Our life goals align, but we are so different in many ways which make things interesting. We can talk to each other about anything, yet laughing at each other as some of the things we do are so “foreign” to each other, but then we realize that we indeed want the same thing, just have a different process. In today’s day and age, it’s so easy to get distracted. While we hold some principles tightly to our hearts, we also need to be patient and give people a chance to express themselves, and most importantly, listen and try to find that common ground. You never know who’ll surprise you and sweep you off your feet. Happy dating everyone. May we all find our soulmates.

A dating app that’s actually good

I’m only 24 so I’m very familiar with Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge but I was never too thrilled with any of them, all of them thrive on making sure you stay unsatisfied, always looking for the theoretically “perfect” person but never finding them, so you keep paying for the premium features for as long as possible. OKCupid was the dating service for “old people” in my mind and I wrote it off until I was frustrated enough with the other apps to give it a try, and wow, I really wish I tried it sooner. If you thought Hinge was detailed, OKCupid is on another level, you can put in an insane amount of detail into your profile with hundreds of questions you can answer to help you filter through the randos and find people you’re actually compatible with. There definitely aren’t as many young people in my area using this app compared to other apps but since the profiles are so detailed, you don’t have to swipe through hundreds of profiles just to find a few people that you MIGHT be compatible with. People on this app also seem to take it more seriously on average. If you’re looking for a serious relationship with someone you really click with, this is definitely the app to use.

Used to be great

OKC used to be one of the top apps for meeting people and I know people who met on OKC and are still together today. Then over time they started implementing changes that make the app useless. Now you can’t see likes or even sent messages (where you’ve sent a message but they have yet to respond). So what this basically means is that if you’re swiping and you see someone you like, if you don’t send them a message right then and there you’ll likely lose that person. It used to be you could “like” them and go back and view their profile and message them later, but now that’s changed because in OKC’s mind you should only see that person again, at that point, if the like it mutual. Every other which way of communicating with people that’s not a mutual connection is paywalled. Pay to see non-mutual intros. Pay to see non-mutual likes. The main problem with dating apps nowadays is they’ve lost their purpose.
Everything is monetized and that overrides basic functionalities.

You can also tell that users (at least in my area) are dropping this app because you see a lot of the same people and there’s no way to limit (if there is not intuitively) the double take results to just the country you’re in so they make it seem like there’s a lot more of a “pool” by showing people from all over the world. Also, a lot of people only show up in your swipes but not when you search even though they fall under the search criteria.

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Terrible dating app

I was on OKC a couple of years ago and it was great. Had lots of very compatible matches and some super fun dates. My experience this time is completely different. I’ll start by saying I’m above-average attractive (some might say very attractive...not trying to brag...lol...just making a point. ), have good pics (the same type as before but updated), am fit with lots of interests, etc. The thing I liked about OKC initially is that there are tons of interesting questions for people to answer in their profile that aren’t just about personality. Get a good glimpse into what people are in to in general and how they feel about lots of topics but also their sense of humor and what they like sexually.

I’ve been on the site a week or so and right now have over 1500 people who “like” me in some hidden chamber that I have to pay to see. When I go through the “chosen for you” feed 90% are people not even remotely a match for me who haven’t aren’t from this “like you” group. On the rare occasion that I find someone I decide to “like” they have not “liked” me first. This wasn’t the case before. Why didn’t I end up in their feeds?

Leads me to believe OKC is just trying to force people to pay to see who likes them. I don’t mind paying for something of value but from what I’ve seen so far I can’t imagine there would be any reason to do that. There are constant pop up ads so they are already making money from my time on the site. Sadly I’m dumping OKC.

Could be better

The app needs a lot of work. Oddly enough the desktop version is a million times better but for some reason they gave the app the least functionality. It should be the other way around. The app should be better than the desktop version but it’s not. As others have mentioned the filters don’t seem to work. Also the pricing is too cut-throat, read receipts for example should be included with A-List instead of being a separate purchase. And $10 to purchase incognito mode is kind of ridiculous, also seems like that should have been bundled with A-List. The developers treated this too much like a game with in-app purchases, A-List creators should go back to the drawing board and try to create an app that does their brand justice. The way it stands the app is nothing more than a wannabe Tinder. Also I am leaning towards using the desktop version exclusively and giving up on the app entirely. Oh and, the last thing I forgot to mention, the incentive they claimed for people to join Alist is that their would be no advertisements yet the app is plastered with their advertising of the New People and the Popular categories which are both separate purchases. I’m not interested in either of those yet no way to bypass those just seems a bit selfish on their part and adds to the reduced functionality because now I have 2 categories that aren’t relevant to me.

Scammers and morally bankrupt company

This company has become the pinnacle of greed, immoral practises, duping customers. This platform is riddled with fake profiles and they don’t act on cleaning those even after reporting them. The only times your inbox is full is whenever your subscription expires and suddenly an army of fake profiles swarm your inbox making you believe to pay for an additional time. Every time my subscription renews there is a technical glitch and they demote my profile to a non paying member in-spite of my account getting charged. I have to connect to the super late technical staff only through emails. Until this time, they had fixed my issue. But this time they even declined to fix it as they mentioned that I bought my subscription through the App Store and not through their website. I argued I have already paid for the subscription and need my services restored. They flatly refused and asked to reach out to Apple company. I reached out to Apple to find a resolution and after two months of emails and calls they refunded but guess what. They refunded from the time when I asked for the refund while conveniently ignoring that the services haven’t been working since day one of the subscription renewal. If they had asked me for the proof I would have happily provided them with the screenshots and the email communication but they are ready to indulge in unethical and corrupt practices. You should be ashamed of yourself as a company!

Poor payment plans

The app itself is fine it does everything every other dating app does. My problem is the payment plans being ridiculously expensive imo. Only a single month subscription is 35 bucks and that's the basic package, the premium package which has the ability to see who likes you, costs 45 bucks for a single month. I would be willing to pay for the basic package only if they moved the ability to see who likes you to the basic package but aside from the unlimited likes there's no reason to subscribe to either. The premium package has no other good incentives to get it aside from seeing who likes you so basically that's what you're paying an extra 10 bucks for. The system they have set up of course pretty much forces people to pay for one of these plans but personally I find other apps have better plans or different pricing packages. For example, bumble allows you to buy their premium package (which includes everything in the single premium package) for only 1 week at 20 dollars and while that's still not amazing pricing I think it works better for people like me who would rather not spend over 130 dollars for 6 months with OkCupid. I'm frustrated at how much these dating apps rip off from people for features that should either be standard in the app or only 1 upgrade plan at a reasonable price. OkCupid does not have reasonable prices but aside from that, I suppose it's fine.