Gentle Ally: PDA Parent Helper

Autism & PDA Parenting Support

Free · In‑App Purchases · Designed for iPad. Not verified for macOS.

New: Caregiver Calm (breathing & grounding for you) + an offline Phrasebook of ready PDA phrases. Join 450+ families finding calmer days. Transform "Brush your teeth NOW" into language your PDA child can actually hear. Gentle Ally uses AI to rephrase demands into declarative, low-demand communication — personalized to your child's unique profile, interests, and calming strategies. Used by 450+ PDA families. Works for autism, ADHD, and neurodivergent profiles too. Gentle Ally helps parents and caregivers transform everyday demands into anxiety-reducing, choice-oriented prompts for children with PDA (pathological demand avoidance), autism, ADHD, and related profiles. Turn stressful moments into collaborative opportunities—instantly. TRANSLATE DEMANDS INTO DECLARATIVE LANGUAGE • Get AI-powered rephrasing suggestions in seconds • Transform "Brush your teeth now" into collaborative, low-demand alternatives • Personalized to your child's interests, triggers, and regulation needs • Save favorite strategies with tags for quick access (Premium) • Six proven declarative patterns: Observation, Thinking Aloud, Collaboration, Problem-Solving, Context, and Teaching Reversal NEW — DECLARATIVE PHRASEBOOK (works offline, no daily limit) • 57 ready-to-use, PDA-friendly phrases for real moments • Browse by situation — bedtime, mealtime, leaving the house, transitions, screen time, and more • Or browse by the six declarative patterns, with plain-language examples • Search and tap to copy in seconds — no internet required • Switch between British and American wording • Save your favourites with tags (Premium) NEW — CAREGIVER CALM (because your calm is the accommodation) • A space just for you — regulate your own nervous system first • Guided box-breathing in 1, 3, or 5 minutes, with a gentle visual to follow • Grounding scripts and daily affirmations for the hard moments • Optional daily self-care reminder • Co-regulation made practical: a calmer you helps a calmer them 24/7 PARENTING SUPPORT WITH ELLIE (Premium) • Chat with a PDA-aware AI assistant for guidance and emotional support • Get strategies for meltdowns, refusal, and daily challenges • Receive advice tailored to your child's unique profile • Emergency de-escalation mode for crisis moments BUILD YOUR CHILD'S PROFILE • Capture special interests, calming activities, and triggers • Document what works (and what doesn't) • Include co-occurring conditions and therapies • Get increasingly personalized suggestions over time PRACTICAL TOOLS FOR EVERYDAY CHALLENGES • Regulation planner: Check readiness before giving instructions • Screen transition helper: Swap screens for alternative regulators • Visual prompts: Reduce spoken demands with gentle cues • First/Then builder: Create sequences that lower demand load • Safety scripts: Quick access to calming phrases during crises WHY CAREGIVERS LOVE GENTLE ALLY "It's already reduced my mental load several times — especially in the morning around breakfast time demands!" — Emma, PDA parent "This app is life changing for us and so well thought out." — Georgia, PDA parent "We don't often find support 100% geared to PDA parenting. This is an invaluable resource." — App Store review Built by a solo developer inspired by a mother and her son's PDA journey. Created to democratize specialist knowledge and make PDA-aware strategies accessible to every family, 24/7. PRIVACY-FIRST APPROACH • Your data is encrypted end-to-end • Never sold or shared with third parties • GDPR-compliant with transparent consent Join 450+ families already using Gentle Ally to reduce anxiety, build connection, and support their child's nervous system. https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/

Ratings & Reviews

  • 5.0
    out of 5
    4 Ratings

This update is about finding calm — and the right words — faster. NEW: Caregiver Calm A space just for you. Your own regulated nervous system is the biggest support you can offer your child — so this one comes first. Follow a guided breathing exercise (1, 3, or 5 minutes), lean on grounding scripts and affirmations in the hard moments, and set an optional gentle daily reminder to check in with yourself. NEW: Declarative Phrasebook 57 ready-to-use, PDA-friendly phrases for everyday moments — bedtime, mealtimes, leaving the house, transitions and more. Works completely offline with no daily limit. Browse by situation or by declarative pattern, search, tap to copy, and switch between British and American wording. Plus small fixes and polish throughout. Thank you for being here. — EJ

Version 1.2.0

The developer, Rinavore Limited, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .

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    • Health & Fitness
    • Contact Info
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    • Usage Data
    • Sensitive Info
    • Diagnostics

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Information

Seller
  • Rinavore Limited
Size
  • 20.8 MB
Category
  • Health & Fitness
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
  • iPhone
    Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
  • iPad
    Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later.
  • Mac
    Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.
  • Apple Vision
    Requires visionOS 1.0 or later.
Languages
  • English
Age Rating
18+
In-App Purchases
Yes
Copyright
  • © 2026 Rinavore Limited
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  • Privacy Policy

    • Supports

    • Family Sharing

      Some in-app purchases and subscriptions may be shareable with your family group when Family Sharing is enabled. Learn More

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