Not everyone is looking for romance. Some are looking for a partner. Find yours: companionship, stability, and a life built together.
Every dating app was built the same way. Swipe on a photo. Hope for the best. Repeat. LLMA was built differently. No swiping. No algorithm based on looks. No hollow matches that go nowhere. Just real people who know what they want and are serious about finding it.
WHO THIS IS FOR
Gay men looking for a life partner, a co-parent, or a genuine connection with another gay man or a straight woman who shares their values.
Straight women who have always known that the traditional romantic model was not built for them.
Anyone who is done with surface-level matching and ready to build something real.
LLMA was born out of the lavender partnership community, where gay men and straight women build intentional life partnerships on trust and shared vision rather than romance. That spirit of radical intentionality runs through everything we build.
HOW IT WORKS
LAVENDER RESUME
Your profile is not a highlight reel. It is a full picture of who you are, what you value, and what you are building. Progressive disclosure means your match sees the real you, not a curated version of it.
CARDS ON THE TABLE
160 cards. 20 decks. And zero chill.
We are talking about the questions nobody asks on a first date but everybody desperately needs answered before they share a bathroom. Are you a 5am person or a midnight person? What happens when money gets tight? Who shuts down in conflict and who absolutely never stops talking? Kids yes or kids absolutely not?
But here is the twist. The cards are not just fun (although they are genuinely, uncomfortably fun). Every answer maps to a personality trait and relationship style. Complete a deck and unlock real insights into how you love, how you fight, how you handle money, and what you actually need in a partner. Think of it as swiping on yourself. You might learn something.
The more cards you answer, the smarter your matches get. LLMA uses your answers to surface people who align with your actual life, not the version of yourself you post on Instagram.
FULL PICTURE
A deeper compatibility layer covering finances, lifestyle, boundaries, and commitment style. For when you are serious about finding the right person, not just the next person.
BUILT BY SOMEONE ACTUALLY LIVING ONE
Marty Thomas is in a lavender partnership. Publicly. Proudly. Raising a daughter and building a life that is 100% by design. He looked for this platform and it did not exist. So he built it.
Function over fairytale. Substance over swipe. Intentional connection over everything.
LEGAL:
Terms of Use (EULA): https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/
Privacy Policy: https://llma.app/privacy
Not enough active members to justify the price point. I can understand wanting to weed folks out for an exclusive experience, but it needs some work. Longer trial period could be beneficial.
Prices too high
warriorwolfette
In the economy having to spend $10 at a minimum just to be able to use the messaging feature on this app is asinine.
Developer Response
Yes — $9.99. In this economy, roughly one sandwich.The paywall isn't an accident. Free messaging is how you get bots, spam, and people who aren't serious about any of this. Charging for it is the cheapest filter we've found, and everyone you'd talk to on LLMA has cleared the same bar you're objecting to. That's not a fee, that's the product.If ten dollars a month is more than finding a partner is worth to you, we're honestly not the right fit. Craigslist is free.
Can’t View Requests
Sara A. R.
I signed up for this and have a few connection requests, but when I try to click on any of their profiles, the app just glitches and the page jumps around. Super disappointing.
Charges
Jlmw73frustrated
I cancelled my subscription in March and am still getting charged in June. Unable to contact anyone to get this fixed. Does not show as an active or past subscription in my App Store. Very scam like.
Developer Response
Sorry to hear about the charge although "unable to contact anyone" is doing some heavy lifting here.We have chat support built into the app. We have email support. We have our direct phone number on our website - not a form, not a ticket queue, an actual phone number you can call. Any one of them takes about thirty seconds. This review took considerably longer.As for the billing: subscriptions are handled through the App Store, the same way they're handled for every other paid app on your device. Same process, same cancellation flow, same receipts, no difference. So unless Apple has singled you out personally, the theatrics aren't necessary.Reach out through any of the three channels above and we'll get it sorted. Assuming that's the goal.
Bug fixes and improvements:
• Fixed an issue where replacing your profile photo could fail without any error. Updating your photos now works reliably.
• General stability improvements.
Version 1.20.1
The developer, LLMA Ventures LLC, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
Purchases
Financial Info
Location
Contact Info
User Content
Identifiers
Usage Data
Sensitive Info
Diagnostics
Privacy practices may vary, for example, based on the features you use or your age. Learn More
Accessibility
The developer has not yet indicated which accessibility features this app supports. Learn More
Information
Seller
LLMA VENTURES LLC
Size
18.4 MB
Category
Social Networking
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPad Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later.
Mac Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.
