Every dating app was built the same way. Swipe on a photo. Hope for the best. Repeat. LLMA was built differently. No swiping. No algorithm based on looks. No hollow matches that go nowhere. Just real people who know what they want and are serious about finding it.
WHO THIS IS FOR
Gay men looking for a life partner, a co-parent, or a genuine connection with another gay man or a straight woman who shares their values.
Straight women who have always known that the traditional romantic model was not built for them.
Anyone who is done with surface-level matching and ready to build something real.
LLMA was born out of the lavender partnership community, where gay men and straight women build intentional life partnerships on trust and shared vision rather than romance. That spirit of radical intentionality runs through everything we build.
HOW IT WORKS
LAVENDER RESUME
Your profile is not a highlight reel. It is a full picture of who you are, what you value, and what you are building. Progressive disclosure means your match sees the real you, not a curated version of it.
CARDS ON THE TABLE
160 cards. 20 decks. And zero chill.
We are talking about the questions nobody asks on a first date but everybody desperately needs answered before they share a bathroom. Are you a 5am person or a midnight person? What happens when money gets tight? Who shuts down in conflict and who absolutely never stops talking? Kids yes or kids absolutely not?
But here is the twist. The cards are not just fun (although they are genuinely, uncomfortably fun). Every answer maps to a personality trait and relationship style. Complete a deck and unlock real insights into how you love, how you fight, how you handle money, and what you actually need in a partner. Think of it as swiping on yourself. You might learn something.
The more cards you answer, the smarter your matches get. LLMA uses your answers to surface people who align with your actual life, not the version of yourself you post on Instagram.
FULL PICTURE
A deeper compatibility layer covering finances, lifestyle, boundaries, and commitment style. For when you are serious about finding the right person, not just the next person.
BUILT BY SOMEONE ACTUALLY LIVING ONE
Marty Thomas is in a lavender partnership. Publicly. Proudly. Raising a daughter and building a life that is 100% by design. He looked for this platform and it did not exist. So he built it.
Function over fairytale. Substance over swipe. Intentional connection over everything.
LEGAL:
Terms of Use (EULA): https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/
Privacy Policy: https://llma.app/privacy
Not enough active members to justify the price point. I can understand wanting to weed folks out for an exclusive experience, but it needs some work. Longer trial period could be beneficial.
Prices too high
warriorwolfette
In the economy having to spend $10 at a minimum just to be able to use the messaging feature on this app is asinine.
Charges
Jlmw73frustrated
I cancelled my subscription in March and am still getting charged in June. Unable to contact anyone to get this fixed. Does not show as an active or past subscription in my App Store. Very scam like.
Sending a message on the free plan now opens the upgrade prompt instead of showing a confusing "message failed" error.
Fixed a rare freeze in chat that could close the app when tapping in the message field.
Version 1.20.0
The developer, LLMA Ventures LLC, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
Purchases
Financial Info
Location
Contact Info
User Content
Identifiers
Usage Data
Sensitive Info
Diagnostics
Privacy practices may vary, for example, based on the features you use or your age. Learn More
Accessibility
The developer has not yet indicated which accessibility features this app supports. Learn More
Information
Seller
LLMA VENTURES LLC
Size
18 MB
Category
Social Networking
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPad Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later.
Mac Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.
