H.I.M. — Friends, Not Dates
Gay friendship, retro style
Only for iPhone
Free · Designed for iPhone. Not verified for macOS.
iPhone
Up at 1am? Late Night is up too. Planning your week from the sofa? That's Sunday Reset. Set an away message, buzz a buddy, and stay a while. Friendship first.
H.I.M. ("Hi, It's Me") is a friendship app for gay men — not a dating app, and not a hookup app.
It's built on the things that made the early internet feel like home: a screenname that's yours, an away message that says what you're up to, a buddy list of people you actually know, and chat rooms where conversations happen out loud. No swiping. No match queue. No "people nearby." No photo-first browsing. Just talking — the way friendships actually start.
WHY H.I.M. IS DIFFERENT
Most apps for gay men are built to pair you off. H.I.M. is built to help you make friends. There is no swipe mechanic, no proximity radar, and no algorithm pushing you toward romance. You meet people in chat rooms, get to know them in conversation, and add them to your buddy list when there's a real connection.
CHAT ROOMS
Drop into regional rooms (New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, Atlanta, and Everywhere Else) or vibe rooms like Late Night and Sunday Reset. See who's around, jump into the conversation, and meet people who share your corner of the world or your time of day.
BUDDY LIST + AWAY MESSAGES
Build a buddy list of people you've actually met in the rooms. Set an away message so your buddies know what you're up to — "grabbing coffee," "doomscrolling," "finally cleaning my apartment." It's status as self-expression, the way it used to be.
DIRECT MESSAGES
Private one-to-one conversations with the buddies you choose. Send text, photos, and voice notes. Messages queue offline and send when you're back online.
BUILT FOR SAFETY AND PRIVACY
- Block and Report on every profile, every message, every room.
- A content filter screens messages for objectionable language before recipients see them.
- Notification previews default to sender-only, so a message snippet never lands on your lock screen where someone could read it over your shoulder.
- Face ID / Touch ID app lock keeps your conversations yours.
- Delete your account anytime, in two taps — your account and your content are deleted.
- Download a copy of your data anytime.
WHO IT'S FOR
Gay men 18+ looking for friendship and community — new-in-town, starting over, between friend groups, or just tired of every app being about dating. If you've ever wished there were a place to just talk, this is it.
H.I.M. is made by Saman Technologies LLC.
Privacy Policy: https://hiitsme.app/privacy
Terms of Service: https://hiitsme.app/terms
Questions? support@hiitsme.app
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Notifications, finally.
H.I.M. can now tell you when a buddy accepts you or a message lands, without ever nagging you for permission the second you open the app.
New in this version:
• Notifications that ask at the right moment. H.I.M. asks about notifications once, right after a buddy accepts you or you send your first message, when it's obvious why you'd want them. Never on launch. Never again after you've decided.
• Previews that stay private. A notification tells you who messaged you, not what they said. Message text never reaches your lock screen unless you turn it on yourself.
• A steadier buddy list. Add, Knock, and Accept no longer fail in the moment right after you open the app or come back to it.
• A smaller download.
No swiping. No radar. No grid. Just your people, right there.
The developer, Syed Shariff, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
- Contact Info
- User Content
- Identifiers
- Usage Data
Accessibility
The developer has not yet indicated which accessibility features this app supports. Learn More
Information
- Seller
- Syed Shariff
- Size
- 6 MB
- Category
- Social Networking
- Compatibility
Requires iOS 15.0 or later.
- iPhone
Requires iOS 15.0 or later. - iPod touch
Requires iOS 15.0 or later. - Mac
Requires macOS 12.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later. - Apple Vision
Requires visionOS 1.0 or later.
- iPhone
- Languages
- English
- Age Rating
18+
- 18+
- This app is rated 18+ with content restrictions.
Some content may be rated higher, and may therefore be restricted and managed by the developer through in-app controls. - In-App Controls
Parental Controls
Infrequent
Profanity or Crude Humor
Contains
Messaging and Chat
User-Generated Content
Social Media
- Copyright
- © 2026 Saman Technologies LLC
