Thoughtful: Birthday Reminders
Countdowns & one-tap texts
Only for iPhone
Free · Designed for iPhone. Not verified for macOS.
Never miss the people who matter.
Thoughtful remembers every birthday, anniversary, and holiday — then writes the message and opens it in Messages, ready to send. One tap, and you're the person who always remembers.
ONE CARD PER PERSON
Everyone you love gets a single card holding every occasion: their birthday, your anniversary, the holidays you text them for. See the exact message that will send for each one, tap to make it yours, or let Message ideas write it for you.
THE WHOLE LOOP, HANDLED
- Import every birthday from Contacts in one tap
- A reminder lands on the day — at the time you choose — every year, automatically
- Your message opens pre-written in Messages. You just hit send.
- Missed a day? The Catch up card keeps it in view until you text them or check it off
THE THOUGHTFUL DETAILS
- Holidays, remembered: pick who you text for each one, and when the reminder should arrive
- Notes for the little things, saved right on their card
- Birthday ages, anniversary years, zodiac signs, photos, and confetti when it counts
- Snooze a reminder to tomorrow right from the notification
- Back up everything to a file, photos included
PRIVATE BY DESIGN
No accounts. No ads. No tracking. Your people live on your phone and nowhere else.
Thoughtful is for the friend who never forgets — or wants to become one.
more Quieter where it matters, warmer everywhere else.
- Reminders for someone you remember now arrive with no chime and no badge.
- Saving a note tells you when it will come back: "Your note will be ready tomorrow at 9:00 AM."
- A Text button on every person's card, on any day. No confetti, just a hello.
- An empty Sunday can suggest one person to text, just because, if you have not been in touch for a while.
- Also text: link a second person to an anniversary and the card offers them too.
- The week-ahead heads-up invites you to write a note when the person has none yet.
- Countdowns stay right around the clock change in March.
1.2.15 Oct 6
A calmer way to edit an occasion: the date, the reminder time and the heads-up each get their own row.
Also in this update:
• Renaming someone no longer brings their old contact back as a second card.
• Imported birthdays use your default reminder time.
• Tap a reminder while you are adding someone and your work stays put.
• The Undo bar now leaves on its own.
• Reminder fixes for leap-day birthdays, shared holidays, and turning notifications back on.
1.2.14 Oct 3
Diwali, Lunar New Year, Kwanzaa and Grandparents Day are back in the holiday list. You can now choose when the week-ahead heads-up arrives for each occasion: a week early, three days early, the day before, or only on the day. Onboarding can import birthdays from Contacts, and you can mark anyone you are remembering so their day stays quiet. A reminder now opens the person's card before Messages, swiping back from a card works the way it does everywhere on iPhone, and the app says one quiet word the fifth time you text someone from here.
1.2.13 Sep 25
On a holiday, text everyone you planned — one at a time, each in their own words; the week-ahead heads-up now shows your note so far; and Message ideas know who they're for, and stay quiet for the people you're remembering.
1.2.12 Sep 19
Reminders now show the note you're about to send — one tap sends it — and Thoughtful never rings twice for the same person in a day.
On a remembrance day the reminder opens the person's card instead of a text thread, and the snoozed reminder carries your note too.
1.2.11 Sep 11
Remembered people stay quiet everywhere now: their holiday reminders, the prefilled text and the Send button all speak gently.
Invite a friend opens the share sheet, Year in Review carries the App Store link, and Settings has a quiet Rate Thoughtful row. Thoughtful asks how it is doing only after a few sent texts, and never after a condolence.
Labels on filled buttons and the active tab read clearly in dark mode, the welcome screen scrolls at any text size, and deleting one of your own holidays clears every snoozed reminder for it.
1.2.10 Sep 9
Reminder fixes: snoozing a reminder from the notification works reliably again, shared holidays now arrive as one reminder that lists everyone instead of dropping people, the evening catch-up nudge knows when you already texted, and a reminder still texts the right number after you change someone's phone.
Saving a person now tells the truth about whether a reminder is armed, remembrance days never get confetti, and the back button on a person's page is easier to see.
1.2.9 Sep 5
The bottom tabs now work like real tabs: each screen stays exactly where you left it, switching is instant, and there is no swiping between screens.
Press and hold anyone on Home or People for a quick look: their occasions with countdowns, when you last texted, and the next message, with Text now and View right there.
Home and Calendar lost their commentary lines, and adding an occasion from a person's page brings you back to that page.
1.2.8 Sep 3
Tapping a reminder now lands you in Messages faster, with your text ready to go.
Editing lives on the person's page now. Tap their name to change their details. Tap any occasion to change its date, time, message, or type, or to remove it. Pick a heartfelt, funny, or short message right there, and clear a date if you need to.
Screens now switch with a soft fade, and the saved bar steps aside sooner.
1.2.7 Sep 2
Every person's page now wears their own color — the soft tint behind their name matches their circle in your list, and it steps aside for a quiet gray on remembrance days.
One color language everywhere: amber for birthdays, rose for anniversaries, violet for your own special days, teal for holidays — on the year line, the occasion list, and the calendar. Memorial dates on the calendar are marked gently in gray, never in celebration colors.
And the big one: tapping a reminder on their day now takes you straight into Messages with your text ready to send.
1.2.6 Aug 31
A calmer, clearer profile page. Every person now opens with their real photo in full color - or their initials on their own tint - beside their name, with the countdown right below.
The year timeline shows the days left printed inside the next dot, so you can read it at a glance. Occasions are a clean tappable list, and remembrance days are marked gently, never celebrated.
Plus: tapping a day-of reminder opens your message ready to send, and Delete no longer shouts in red from the bottom of the page.
1.2.5 Aug 28
People now sorts itself the way you think — Today, Catch up, This week, This month, Later — with a gentle nudge when a day slips by.
Every person has a real profile: their photo, a countdown to their day, and their whole year on one line.
Titles stay with the name, so it's Uncle Ray and Mrs Smith — in reminders, in messages, everywhere.
Occasions that are about remembering someone are treated gently now: no confetti, no countdown to a "big day", just a quiet note when the day comes.
Plus: Settings is organized into sections, holidays can be removed from the person who has them, Contacts import brings pictures along, and it says Merry Christmas as it should.
1.2.4 Aug 27
The People tab now sorts itself the way you actually think - Today, Catch up, This week, This month, Later - soonest first, with a gentle nudge when a day slipped by.
Every person now has a real profile: their photo, a countdown to their day, and their whole year on one line.
Importing from Contacts brings their picture along, and the Contacts button now adds the birthday to the card they already have.
Plus: it says Merry Christmas now (as it should), and lots of polish under the hood.
1.2.3 Aug 26
Reliability release. Photo reminders arrive complete, snoozes are precise for every person, late-night snoozes wait for morning, archived loved ones stay fully at rest, and the date chips got a small visual polish.
1.2.2 Aug 21
A fix-everything release. Dark mode cards are fully readable, search is instant, the Birthdays calendar filter shows only birthdays, catch-up taps open the right occasion, calendar exports respect one-time dates, and reminders got sturdier under the hood — snoozes, custom holiday times, and big contact imports all behave now.
1.2.1 Aug 19
A big polish release. A bolder Pick-a-date button, a cleaner dark mode, and sharper reminders: custom holiday times now stick, edits always keep your reminders, and passed one-time occasions tidy themselves up. Plus dozens of small fixes from a full app audit.
1.2.0 Aug 12
Polish everywhere: extra-long names now tidy themselves, the Catch up card always fits your screen, and first launch is smoother. Plus the new icon and look from the last update.
1.1.9 Aug 6
A brand-new app icon and refreshed look. Plus the latest improvements: pick the exact time each holiday reminder arrives, tap any Calendar holiday to choose who you text, and a Catch up card for the days you missed.
1.1.8 Aug 5
Pick the exact time each holiday reminder arrives. Tap any holiday on the Calendar to choose who you text. A new Catch up card holds the days you missed until you text them or check them off. Plus a smoother Home, matching icons, a refreshed app icon, and keyboard fixes throughout.
1.1.7 Aug 4
Fixes for smaller iPhones: pages now scroll whenever they need to, so Save and Delete are always within reach. Also: search closes the keyboard on return, a cleaner person page with Edit up in the corner, and small alignment fixes throughout.
1.1.6 Aug 4
A polish pass across the app: cleaner buttons with real icons, a clearer Delete control, a better-balanced Details page on larger iPhones, and a People-page banner that no longer gets cut off. Plus phone numbers now display neatly formatted.
1.1.5 Aug 1
See and edit the exact message for every occasion and holiday right from a person's card. Add occasions and holidays with one tap. Plus layout fixes for smaller iPhones.
1.1.4 Aug 1
Choosing a holiday for someone now opens a message box for exactly what you'll text them, remembered per person and per holiday.
Details, Edit, and Add each fit on one screen with no scrolling.
A cleaner Edit screen with consistent fields and a compact photo, date, and holidays row.
Clearer flows: occasions are Birthday, Anniversary, or your own; holidays live in their own picker.
Many reliability fixes so birthday and holiday reminders always stay scheduled.
1.1.3 Jul 28
Little fixes, big peace of mind:
- Undo, everywhere - one tap brings back an edit, a delete, or a duplicate cleanup
- Clean up duplicates now knows a birthday and an anniversary for the same person both belong
- Safer saves for people with more than one occasion
Thanks for the notes you send - they become updates like this one.
1.1.2 Jul 24
Little things, big difference:
- One person can now have more than one occasion - a birthday and an anniversary both fit
- A new Their Occasions list on each person's page shows every date and holiday you cover for them
- Messages now use their real name automatically - no more placeholder text
- Pick any reminder time, down to the half hour
- Date pickers open on the date you already saved
- Switch an occasion (birthday to anniversary and more) and the message updates with it
- Name your own occasions - Gotcha Day, Nameversary, anything
- A calmer, cleaner Add a Person screen in light and dark mode
- Easier-to-read Appearance controls in Settings
Thanks for the notes you send - they become updates like this one.
1.1.1 Jul 19
Quieter where it matters, warmer everywhere else.
- Reminders for someone you remember now arrive with no chime and no badge.
- Saving a note tells you when it will come back: "Your note will be ready tomorrow at 9:00 AM."
- A Text button on every person's card, on any day. No confetti, just a hello.
- An empty Sunday can suggest one person to text, just because, if you have not been in touch for a while.
- Also text: link a second person to an anniversary and the card offers them too.
- The week-ahead heads-up invites you to write a note when the person has none yet.
- Countdowns stay right around the clock change in March.
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