Answer on your own phone or iPad, in your own time. Nothing is shared until you both choose to compare. No account, no upload, nothing kept by us. The checklist is free.
Some conversations are easy to want and hard to start.
Between Us is a checklist you each fill out alone, on your own iPhone or iPad. One card at a time, at your own pace. You answer honestly because nobody is watching you answer — not your partner, and not us.
When you're both done, and only when you both choose to, your devices show you what you have in common.
HOW IT WORKS
1. You each open the app on your own iPhone or iPad and work through the same list — 100+ cards about closeness, comfort, and boundaries.
2. You answer on a five-point scale: Love it, Like it, Neutral, Curious, Hard no. Add a private note to any card if you want to say more.
3. Nothing is revealed until you have both finished and you have both chosen to compare. Neither of you can peek early.
4. Your devices connect over a local link and show you where you match, where you differ, and what might be worth talking about.
NO SCORE. NO VERDICT.
There's no compatibility percentage and no ranking. The result is a starting point for a conversation, not a judgment about your relationship.
YOUR ANSWERS NEVER LEAVE YOUR DEVICE
There is no account to create. There is no cloud. Your answers stay on your own device and are exchanged over a local connection between the two devices when you both choose to compare. Nothing is uploaded, and we never receive any of it — because there is nowhere for it to go. Apple's App Privacy label for Between Us reads "Data Not Collected."
You can lock the app with Face ID, Touch ID, or your passcode.
PRICING
The app and the full checklist are free. Comparing your real answers is a single one-time purchase, and only one of you needs to buy it. There is no subscription.
Between Us is a tool for two people who want to talk. It is not therapy and makes no clinical claims.
Ratings & Reviews
5.0
out of 5
1 Ratings
Between Us now uses the whole screen on iPhone Duo. With it open, your whole sheet can sit beside the card you're on, as it does on iPad. Nothing else changes, and your answers stay just as you left them.
Version 1.6.2
The developer, Gregory M Koch, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Not Collected
The developer does not collect any data from this app.
Privacy practices may vary, for example, based on the features you use or your age. Learn More
The developer indicated that this app supports the following accessibility features. Learn More
Supported Features
VoiceOver
Voice Control
Larger Text
Dark Interface
Differentiate Without Color Alone
Sufficient Contrast
Reduced Motion
Information
Seller
Gregory M Koch
Size
1.3 MB
Category
Lifestyle
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPad Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later.
Mac Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.