OkCupid: Dating, Love & More 17+

I downloaded this app because I was told about the multiple filters available that in the first couple of hours of using it left me flabbergasted. You can choose an array of options to describe the ideal person the same way when you mark some options to describe yourself it makes the process of choosing or rejecting very brief for both ways if you have your criteria very well set up.
The problem is that often you get contacted by people that has nothing to with your preferences, but you may be part of theirs. My question is if queer people can choose not to be seen by straights (yes there’s a box that they can check for that), why not have the same for every other option like have or not children, diet, smoke, drink, drugs... Nothing most annoying than having a filter but being bombarded with messages from smokers, drinkers, meat eaters, parents, monogamic people that aren’t part of your criteria. In less than 24 hours I realized that this app filters aren’t what I expected. I even thoughts that maybe by paying the subscription it would improve but I didn’t take the risk because I believe the algorithm for that is not even built yet.
I’ll keep looking for an app where you only see and be seen by people with the exact same criteria. Maybe it will reduce the chances to meet more people, but not everyone is in the competition mode.

Truthfully, I’m writing this review entirely because I think it may help my chances with the algorithm. I’m being honest because I don’t think that will effect it. OKCupid is all about the algorithm. I’ve had some success with likes and matches, but tried to moderate a friends account, which was shaped very similar to my own and despite A-list account status he saw maybe 2 likes a week. How could that be possible? There are absolutely people that swipe right on everything. OKCupid for whatever reason just wasn’t showing his profile to anyone. He was frequently active, communicating with the very few people he was connected with. As far as my account is concerned I’ll go through a dry spell where I’ll get 2 likes a week, and then get 30 likes in 2 days. The lack of consistency isn’t with my profile, it’s with whether or not OKCupid feels like showing people my profile. OKCupid is better than most online dating sites because there’s more detail on the people you’re meeting. That’s great. But online dating is hard enough and stupid from the perspective of dating in general. We shouldn’t also have to worry about whether our dating site wants to be nice to us or not regarding showing other people our profile, or have to worry about it arbitrarily passively blackballing us.

Sometimes intros go through, sometimes they do not. A number of people I’ve connected with me and said they never saw the intro and they even knew exactly where to look for intros. I have had the same experience also. I have been an unpaid member, and then tried being a paid member. There are multiple levels of paid membership which can be confusing. I’m back to being an unpaid member because even as a paid member it’s not working all that well for me. My partner has posted pictures within writing prompts and they do not show up to anyone else, although they do appear in her profile when she looks at it. She has reported this to tech-support and they did nothing about it. I do greatly appreciate the fact that OKC supports non-monogamous dating. And the very detailed questions and answers. A lot of the questions are worded in such a way though that it is difficult to answer them because the questions are vague or potentially confusing like they could be interpreted in completely opposite ways sometimes. And more of them need an intermediate choice instead of just yes or no. Finally, a strange behavior I noticed when we started new profiles not long ago, without any indication of this, the app assumes a person would reject every answer that differs from yours. You have to go back through and review all your answers and the answers you would accept, in order to change this.