LLMA - Lavender Marriage App
Your Modern Matchmaker
Free · In‑App Purchases · Designed for iPad. Not verified for macOS.
Built by someone living it the world's first platform for lavender marriages, intentional co-parenting, and chosen companionship. Find your person. Build something real.
Every dating app was built the same way. Swipe on a photo. Hope for the best. Repeat. LLMA was built differently. No swiping. No algorithm based on looks. No hollow matches that go nowhere. Just real people who know what they want and are serious about finding it.
WHO THIS IS FOR
Gay men looking for a life partner, a co-parent, or a genuine connection with another gay man or a straight woman who shares their values.
Straight women who have always known that the traditional romantic model was not built for them.
Anyone who is done with surface-level matching and ready to build something real.
LLMA was born out of the lavender partnership community, where gay men and straight women build intentional life partnerships on trust and shared vision rather than romance. That spirit of radical intentionality runs through everything we build.
HOW IT WORKS
LAVENDER RESUME
Your profile is not a highlight reel. It is a full picture of who you are, what you value, and what you are building. Progressive disclosure means your match sees the real you, not a curated version of it.
CARDS ON THE TABLE
160 cards. 20 decks. And zero chill.
We are talking about the questions nobody asks on a first date but everybody desperately needs answered before they share a bathroom. Are you a 5am person or a midnight person? What happens when money gets tight? Who shuts down in conflict and who absolutely never stops talking? Kids yes or kids absolutely not?
But here is the twist. The cards are not just fun (although they are genuinely, uncomfortably fun). Every answer maps to a personality trait and relationship style. Complete a deck and unlock real insights into how you love, how you fight, how you handle money, and what you actually need in a partner. Think of it as swiping on yourself. You might learn something.
The more cards you answer, the smarter your matches get. LLMA uses your answers to surface people who align with your actual life, not the version of yourself you post on Instagram.
FULL PICTURE
A deeper compatibility layer covering finances, lifestyle, boundaries, and commitment style. For when you are serious about finding the right person, not just the next person.
BUILT BY SOMEONE ACTUALLY LIVING ONE
Marty Thomas is in a lavender partnership. Publicly. Proudly. Raising a daughter and building a life that is 100% by design. He looked for this platform and it did not exist. So he built it.
Function over fairytale. Substance over swipe. Intentional connection over everything.
LEGAL:
Terms of Use (EULA): https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/
Privacy Policy: https://llma.app/privacy
Ratings & Reviews
What's New!
We've been heads-down making LLMA feel as intentional as the partnerships you're building. Here's what's new:
Discover smarter. Advanced filters are here — search by distance, gender identity, timeline, living preference, public presence, and core values. Filter by what actually matters to you.
Subscription badges on match cards. You can now see at a glance whether someone is a Plus, Premium, or Platinum member — right on their card in Discover.
Message from their profile. When you're already connected with someone, their profile now shows a Message button so you can jump straight into the conversation without hunting for it.
New look and feel. We refreshed the home screen with a cleaner, more editorial design — dark, minimal, and built for focus.
llma.life community banner. The LLMA community lives beyond the app. Find the Lavender Logs blog, The Lavender Blueprint course, The Lavender Letter newsletter, and the free guide — all linked from your home screen.
Bug fixes and polish.
Photo carousel swipes correctly and photos save reliably
Edit Profile opens the form directly every time
Subscription tier now syncs correctly for web and Stripe subscribers
Stability improvements across Discover, Insights, and Messaging
The developer, LLMA Ventures LLC, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
- Purchases
- Financial Info
- Location
- Contact Info
- User Content
- Identifiers
- Usage Data
- Sensitive Info
- Diagnostics
Accessibility
The developer has not yet indicated which accessibility features this app supports. Learn More
Information
- Seller
- LLMA VENTURES LLC
- Size
- 16.7 MB
- Category
- Social Networking
- Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
- iPhone
Requires iOS 17.0 or later. - iPad
Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later. - Mac
Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later. - Apple Vision
Requires visionOS 1.0 or later.
- iPhone
- Languages
- English
- Age Rating
18+
- 18+
- Infrequent
Profanity or Crude Humor
Mature or Suggestive Themes
Contains
Messaging and Chat
- In-App Purchases
Yes
- LLMA Plus $9.99
- LLMA Premium Monthly $19.99
- LLMA Platinum $29.99
- Copyright
- © 2025 LLMA Ventures LLC