HER:Lesbian&Queer LGBTQ Dating Ratings and Reviews

Thank you HER!!!

I could not give a better review. I was on the HER app for 3 years. In the 3 years on the application, I was kicked off 5 times for people believing I was a cis gender male and not a trans male. I met a few nice friends on this app, from my best friend to my future fiancé!! This is my primary reason for providing this testimonial. The last time I was kicked off HER, the HER team gave me a 3 year subscription plus unlimited match events. It was about a month and 3 years later; and I finally met HER on HER. I met the one!! Yes; the one we all wait for and gush after! We are now one of those happy success stories! I never thought I would meet "her" ever, BUT HER made it happen!! I could not be happier! My son and I finally have the family we have dreamed over and I have never felt happier. The happiness has trickled to my family and friends and we are all awaiting the special day!! It would not be possible without HER and the wonderful gift to this transman of free membership due to the discrimination. Thanks for taking care of the discrimination and thanks for helping me meet the woman of my dreams. She is a keeper and our love story will go down in books, thanks to her!

Developer Response ,

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I’m cool with her

Her is an ok app. It is a bit expensive and getting to your matches can be a little tricky without a subscription. My favorite part of the site is that I can use it as a trans woman to meet females and trans. Unfortunately, and this isn’t perhaps the fault of the her app, it can be tough market to meet up much with this app. I have zero problems meeting up with people on taimi and in the days when I had grindr no trouble there either, and I think I have met both more cisgender females and trans on both of those sites, strangely enough. Her’s primary user base isn’t as toxic as some others, but it also isn’t primarily geared to my demographic (although it gestures to being inclusive to a tran like me). Some of the females I have chatted with on her didn’t read my profile or said somewhat prejudicial things, but I’ve never been kicked off the app or anything. I just don’t think a lot of the women on her are looking for a trans woman, and if that’s you I don’t really know what to tell you as far as a solution. I see a lot more trans males on her than females, so I assume they are in a better position. it’s a lot easier to date men as a trans in my experience regardless of what app you use. However, I have had many likes and conversations and a few dates though her, and if you’re looking for your person, maybe you will meet her through this app. It’s definitely worth trying.

Developer Response ,

Thanks for sharing your feedback! Please feel free to email us at support@weareher.com to let us know what we can improve to create a better experience for you. Have an amazing day.

Needs lots of work

They need to make this app focused on REAL people... there’s too many unverified people and you don’t know who’s real and who isn’t... There’s also NO interesting people in my area.. There’s too many people looking for a unicorn.. There are lots of people in relationships using this app... I don’t understand why they’re here if they looking for 3 somes... even if you report them, their profiles are still there. I reported someone twice and I believe all they did was block them from my end.. there’s no known bugs, but I believe the subscription is dumb too... I believed that I was getting the best subscription when I purchased platinum, but I needed gold to see the others who purchased subscriptions... that’s dumb... why not make it one subscription??? That way you’re not wasting our money... with the platinum all I could do was see my likes... I couldn’t update my location or search specifically like that... I couldn’t look at the people who were “in the spotlight “ and I also couldn’t click on the people who were interested in me.. so this app needs a lot of work... its far from perfect... I also believe they need a specific button (after verifying) that someone is a black user where we can choose whether we want to date interracially... they assume for us and it’s hard to weed out the bot profiles... in all, I feel like this app was a huge waste of my time... I didn’t meet ANYONE in the 2 months that I was on this app....

Disappointed Won’t be Using Again

OK I feel as though this app is a little bit too strict. We are all adults here. If we make a mistake or if you break a community guidelines OK flag is fair but give us a few chances because things can be flagged that shouldn’t be flagged and are flagged just because someone is mad instead of doing a proper investigation to have to beg for my account to be off hold is a bit ridiculous especially when you are part of a community that you felt. It was safe to discuss certain things. I don’t think the subscription is worth it due to the fact they are constantly looking for a way to put your account on hold, when your account is on hold, you cannot use the app. This also breaks any bun that you have established while your account is on hold. I do not feel like it is fair to flag. Every little thing. We are adults! There will be times where we will make a mistakes. We should not be harshly panelized. I feel like this is new to all of us when it comes to community guidelines I think that really no one really looks throughly at it and there should not be a penalty right off the back for it. There should be a email sent to the person that lets them know that they violated a community guideline, in other words I do feel like I met great people. I just think that guidelines should be adjusted. We are all humans and we make mistakes. Please adjust this.

Developer Response ,

Hi there. We are sorry that you didn't enjoy the app. Please feel free to let us know what we can do to improve your experience on the app. Send us a message at support@weareher.com

I really wanted to like this app

First of all I’ve probably downloaded this app and deleted so many times forgetting each time why I deleted it in the first place. Which shows you I really wanted to like this app. I really did!! But the fact that I will be swiping and run out of “swipes” and it won’t let me swipe for 14 hours unless I upgrade to premium is just bonkers. I get running out of swipes it happens all the time to me on bumble and tinder. But to have to wait 14 hours is just ridiculous. Also it constantly notifies me when someone likes me but when I go to look at my likes it tries to make me pay for premium again!! I get needing to make money but I’d rather have ads pop up and have some certain exclusive features like swiping back have to be paid for then pretty much everything. Also I know with tinder and bumble it only notifies you if you both like eachother I’m constantly getting likes and other notifications pop up on my phone with no way of turning the notifications off on this app and I don’t need my phone blowing up all day. I feel this app needs a bit of a facelift maybe take some tips from tinder bumble and hinge cause I happen to love how hinge has a ton of info without being crazy like ok Cupid which seems like it’s never ending questions. I wish I liked this app but there’s just so much wrong with it. 😕

Cool app, but EXPENSIVE & scam accounts

2 main points on why I give a low rating overall. 1. The app is impossible to make connections on unless you pay for premium which is $30 a month. Insanely overpriced. 2. Even if you decide to pay the money (which I have done twice), you will be contacted by dangerous scam accounts posing as women. I have spent the year on various dating apps. I’ve never had a problem with fake accounts on Hinge. I’ve had at least 7 first dates from Hinge. Everyone was who they said they were. Scam accounts have basically been nonexistent. I’ve spent much less time on Her and have already been contacted by 5 scam accounts (that I know of). Just be careful if you try using this app. I did have one meaningful connection when I paid for the app and they were who they said they were. So it is possible! Take extra precautions to verify the person is real. I typically ask for Snapchat and that tends to scare away the catfish (or make them angry). Either way I can figure out they’re not real. One more thing, the community message boards are absolutely filled with nudes and fake messages asking to hook up or send pics. It’s like the Wild West out there. Overall, making a connection IS possible IF YOU PAY an exorbitant amount. Her should charge a reasonable price like other dating apps. You WILL encounter scams. Be prepared and be cautious.

Developer Response ,

I'm sorry to hear this was your experience on the app. We are in the process of updating our flagging system to improve scammer detection so you have confidence that the person you are talking to is real. Please report any suspicious profiles as you see them and our team will check them out as soon as possible. If you have any more feedback for us, please let us know at support@weareher.com :)

Too many fake ‘likes’

The app is simple and easy to use, but way too focused on trying to get you to subscribe. I can understand withholding the more premium features for those who pay the money, but I draw the line at being sent fake likes just to keep me “interested” in the app. Every day I’d get likes from several women who had maybe one picture and no profile information. After a couple times returning the like and sending a message (which of course there was no reply), I realized something was up. If these were scammers or catfish, I would think I’d get a reply. So I did some interest research and I discovered that some dating sites/apps will send people random likes from fake profiles just to give the user the little endorphin hit you get when you get like. They are trying to keep you hooked and entice you to pay for the subscription. I suspect some of the likes I got were from other users too; saw a few that were clearly trying to scam. I was very happy to see the app removed their profile quickly, so that’s a plus. I was also please with the ability of the app to delete all of my data and remove my profile when I decided I was tired of getting likes form so many fake people. I can only assume that my data was really deleted, but I suspect they will just end up saving my pictures to use in their fake profiles.

It’s changed a lot

HER is one of the more customizable apps within the dating scene—with questions and communities and badges. It allows one to really dig into their own character and get an insight of others before making a decision on whether or not to swipe. It also is one of the only dating apps I’ve experienced that prompts for questions when no one has made a move. However, things have changed from the first time I got the app to now. I’ve deleted it and redownloaded it on multiple occasions, and before you were able to get a preview on people who liked you in your activities with no subscription—so long as it was in the beginning of the list. You didn’t have a limited amount of swipes per day, let alone likes, and premium costs were cheaper. Now it feels as if it’s making things harder to use unless you have the money to dish out $25 a month. The limitations make it very undesirable, with the customizations just barely doing enough to balance it out. I just wish it was easier to use without emptying your bank account, like it used to be when I first got it a year ago. Has a lot of potential but is becoming a cash grab.

Developer Response ,

Thanks for the feedback and I'm sorry to hear that you're frustrated with the experience. We try to keep all important features free - swiping, making & receiving likes, Communities and messaging. We are a small team with limited resources, but we hope you get value and are able to meet someone through all our free features.

Lots of members, but $$$

I joined Her hoping to meet more LGBTQ women for friendship or more, and there are a lot of us! The app seems really popular, and people seem to interact with my profile more than on other platforms which is nice. But I do have a few issues: the user interface is a bit glitchy. Multiple of the same profile tend to show up when swiping, causing errors. Takes a few swipes left for the same profiles to go away and bring up someone new. But the biggest problem that actually steers me away is the price for premium. I don’t know when dating apps became so expensive! $25 a month is the lowest option, and you don’t even get to see your likes if you purchase it. You have to do the higher tier. I understand having to run the app and support developers, but there are in-app ads AND multiple paywall tiers? It’s so excessive and predatory. Using the free version you can swipe freely but only get access to like 10 likes every 24 hours, so you get notifications that people are liking you but you can’t do anything about it. I’m sharing my thoughts here just for a shot at a free trial to clear out my notifications.

Developer Response ,

Thanks for the feedback and I'm sorry to hear that you're frustrated with the experience. We try to keep all important features free - swiping, making & receiving likes, Communities and messaging. We are a small team with limited resources, but we hope you get value and are able to meet someone through all our free features.

I want to give this app a better review but

I’ve been on her for over a year. Not that I’ve been looking for that long, I just went over to tinder and date a dude for 6 months. (I’m bi and genderqueer and poly) What I like: I love that it is inclusive of polyamorous, kinky, and BIPOC folks. I like the little questions on the profiles. What I think is breaking the app: Her sends me notifications about things I could not care less about and there is no way to change the settings. I don’t want a notification every time I get a like. I don’t want to know about special events. I just want to know when someone on the app messages me. No one responds, like almost no one. When I used this app last year I had several lovely conversations that led to one or two dates with one person. This year almost no one responds. I message everyone I match with and usually nothing. I think this could in part be connected to the issue I listed above. Unfortunately, as cute as this app is, it doesn’t work and I have already moved on to tinder again. I would rate higher, but if the app doesn’t work, it doesn’t matter how the features function. I gave back a star after seeing the responses to the reefs giving one star, trans women ARE women.

Developer Response ,

Thanks for sharing your honest feedback. If you have any suggestions on how we could better the experience of the app for its users, please send us a message at support@weareher.com