Hiki: Autism Friendship Dating 17+

I haven’t had this for very long, but I’m really loving the community aspect already. As an autistic person, I’ve really struggled to date and make friends, and it’s awesome to have a space like this! (By “struggled”, I mean than I often get ditched or essentially bullied when I tell people I’m autistic.) Sadly, there’s not all that many people close to me, but that really has nothing to do with the app itself.
There are a few things I dislike about the app itself so far. First, people I’ve already hit X on keep showing back up in the match section of the app. Like, near the top the next time I open the app. I wish that when I hit X, those profiles wouldn’t continue to show up. Second, I hate that I can’t specify any distance between 25 & 100 miles. That’s a huge difference, and I really would just like to be able to specify the distance mile by mile, not in set numbers with huge gaps. Third, I do wish the buttons didn’t disappear when I’m scrolling down on someone’s profile. It takes a good 5 seconds to pop back up, and I just wish they stayed there the whole time.

Update: I’ve lowered my rating and left the app due to two reasons: 1) There’s a lot of hate towards neurotypical people on here. We’re becoming the villains and recreating the same cycle that led to us being marginalized. 2) Insane amount of blocking. You disagree with someone, blocked. Say the wrong thing, blocked. Breathe, blocked. I asked someone who was complaining of harassment if they could describe what happened so the community could help and was blocked.
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I’ve been on this app for a bit and it’s been an overall pleasant experience, though there has been some drama. There are a lot of people that bombard others with requests to chat/date, which can be annoying when it happens the 20th time that day. But you can easily tune this out. As for the claims of racism/sexism/bigotry/etc., they are all extremely overblown. Yes, have I seen some bad things said/done? Absolutely. That exists no matter where you go. But I’ve been a witness to many of these incidents, and they usually boil down to one of two things: 1) the person claiming harassment is often very confrontational themselves and argues a lot, and falls back on one of the -isms to win the argument, or 2) someone makes a poorly-worded statement and someone else completely overreacts and starts flinging -isms because it’s a power trip.

There are a ton of undiagnosed people on here, and some not autistic too. I like being able to meet other autistic people. It is a relief to learn there are others like me and what they have gone through… But self diagnosis can be dangerous. And I feel the people not Autistic are taking advantage of this free site. There needs to be some sort of weed out process… maybe a note from the people who diagnosed you…

There are also people on here with adhd. That is not Autism. I’m here so I can meet other autistic people. Since I started going here, I have realized how normal I am even as a neurodivergent person.

But adhd people, undiagnosed people, and neurotypical people shouldn’t be on this site. They are just confusing things