Every dating app was built the same way. Swipe on a photo. Hope for the best. Repeat. LLMA was built differently. No swiping. No algorithm based on looks. No hollow matches that go nowhere. Just real people who know what they want and are serious about finding it.
WHO THIS IS FOR
Gay men looking for a life partner, a co-parent, or a genuine connection with another gay man or a straight woman who shares their values.
Straight women who have always known that the traditional romantic model was not built for them.
Anyone who is done with surface-level matching and ready to build something real.
LLMA was born out of the lavender partnership community, where gay men and straight women build intentional life partnerships on trust and shared vision rather than romance. That spirit of radical intentionality runs through everything we build.
HOW IT WORKS
LAVENDER RESUME
Your profile is not a highlight reel. It is a full picture of who you are, what you value, and what you are building. Progressive disclosure means your match sees the real you, not a curated version of it.
CARDS ON THE TABLE
160 cards. 20 decks. And zero chill.
We are talking about the questions nobody asks on a first date but everybody desperately needs answered before they share a bathroom. Are you a 5am person or a midnight person? What happens when money gets tight? Who shuts down in conflict and who absolutely never stops talking? Kids yes or kids absolutely not?
But here is the twist. The cards are not just fun (although they are genuinely, uncomfortably fun). Every answer maps to a personality trait and relationship style. Complete a deck and unlock real insights into how you love, how you fight, how you handle money, and what you actually need in a partner. Think of it as swiping on yourself. You might learn something.
The more cards you answer, the smarter your matches get. LLMA uses your answers to surface people who align with your actual life, not the version of yourself you post on Instagram.
FULL PICTURE
A deeper compatibility layer covering finances, lifestyle, boundaries, and commitment style. For when you are serious about finding the right person, not just the next person.
BUILT BY SOMEONE ACTUALLY LIVING ONE
Marty Thomas is in a lavender partnership. Publicly. Proudly. Raising a daughter and building a life that is 100% by design. He looked for this platform and it did not exist. So he built it.
Function over fairytale. Substance over swipe. Intentional connection over everything.
LEGAL:
Terms of Use (EULA): https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/
Privacy Policy: https://llma.app/privacy
There is no help section that I can find! The insights section just continuously buffers. The views stay at zero which could be just a me problem lol but I feel like I would at least have a couple views after a week. I upgraded to the premium thinking I’d get better everything not sure what’s changed because I’m not seeing any activity whatsoever. Hoping this is just new app bugs and not a me problem 🤞 love the idea of this app though
Too pricey
quitter4good
Not enough active members to justify the price point. I can understand wanting to weed folks out for an exclusive experience, but it needs some work. Longer trial period could be beneficial.
Misleading
EL 626
I had two issues with this dating app: low value and most men were not looking for a lavender marriage. By low value I mean it was complicated to use and every feature seemed to be extra. There is no way to use this app successfully on the free version and in its current state I do not see why you’d want to pay. It seemed like most of the profiles show to me were not seeking a lavender marriage. Additionally there were quite a few men who seemed to want to be sponsored and financially supported. I don’t see this app lasting long term without major changes.
Developer Response
“Low value” because every feature isn’t free is certainly one way to review a brand-new niche app 😂 LLMA is built around intentional connections, not unlimited browsing. As for men wanting to be “sponsored,” that’s a user-quality issue we actively monitor—not the business model. We’re improving fast, but predicting our funeral this early feels ambitious.
Prices too high
warriorwolfette
In the economy having to spend $10 at a minimum just to be able to use the messaging feature on this app is asinine.
Developer Response
Yes — $9.99. In this economy, roughly one sandwich.The paywall isn't an accident. Free messaging is how you get bots, spam, and people who aren't serious about any of this. Charging for it is the cheapest filter we've found, and everyone you'd talk to on LLMA has cleared the same bar you're objecting to. That's not a fee, that's the product.If ten dollars a month is more than finding a partner is worth to you, we're honestly not the right fit. Craigslist is free.
fixed photo verification
Version 1.27
The developer, LLMA Ventures LLC, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Linked to You
The following data may be collected and linked to your identity:
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Information
Seller
LLMA VENTURES LLC
Size
19.1 MB
Category
Social Networking
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPad Requires iPadOS 17.0 or later.
Mac Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.
