Answer on your own phone, in your own time. Nothing is shared until you both choose to compare. No account, no upload, nothing kept by us. The full checklist is free.
Some conversations are easy to want and hard to start.
Between Us is a checklist you each fill out alone, on your own iPhone. One card at a time, at your own pace. You answer honestly because nobody is watching you answer — not your partner, and not us.
When you're both done, and only when you both choose to, your phones show you what you have in common.
HOW IT WORKS
1. You each open the app on your own iPhone and work through the same list — 100+ cards about closeness, comfort, and boundaries.
2. You answer on a five-point scale: Love it, Like it, Neutral, Curious, Hard no. Add a private note to any card if you want to say more.
3. Nothing is revealed until you have both finished and you have both chosen to compare. Neither of you can peek early.
4. Your phones connect directly and show you where you match, where you differ, and what might be worth talking about.
NO SCORE. NO VERDICT.
There's no compatibility percentage and no ranking. The result is a starting point for a conversation, not a judgment about your relationship.
YOUR ANSWERS NEVER LEAVE YOUR PHONE
There is no account to create. There is no cloud. Your answers stay on your own iPhone and are exchanged directly between the two phones when you both choose to compare. Nothing is uploaded, and we never receive any of it — because there is nowhere for it to go. Apple's App Privacy label for Between Us reads "Data Not Collected."
You can lock the app with Face ID or your passcode.
PRICING
The app and the full checklist are free. Comparing your real answers is a single one-time purchase, and only one of you needs to buy it. There is no subscription.
Between Us is a tool for two people who want to talk. It is not therapy and makes no clinical claims.
Ratings & Reviews
5.0
out of 5
1 Ratings
From now on, a compare stays as it was. The next time the two of you compare, both sheets are kept exactly as they stood at that moment, so picking your own answers back up afterward doesn't change what you looked at together.
Reset this phone's sheet now clears everything the confirmation promises — your answers, your partner's sheet, and any compare saved on this phone.
Also fixed: on the newest iOS, the Cancel button could go missing from those confirmations. It's back, so there is always a way to change your mind. And exporting a sheet now works with any name, however long.
Version 1.3.1
The developer, Gregory M Koch, indicated that the app’s privacy practices may include handling of data as described below. For more information, see the developer’s privacy policy .
Data Not Collected
The developer does not collect any data from this app.
Privacy practices may vary, for example, based on the features you use or your age. Learn More
The developer indicated that this app supports the following accessibility features. Learn More
Supported Features
VoiceOver
Voice Control
Larger Text
Dark Interface
Differentiate Without Color Alone
Sufficient Contrast
Reduced Motion
Information
Seller
Gregory M Koch
Size
1.1 MB
Category
Lifestyle
Compatibility
Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
iPhone Requires iOS 17.0 or later.
Mac Requires macOS 14.0 or later and a Mac with Apple M1 chip or later.