OkCupid Dating: Date Singles 17+

Sometimes intros go through, sometimes they do not. A number of people I’ve connected with me and said they never saw the intro and they even knew exactly where to look for intros. I have had the same experience also. I have been an unpaid member, and then tried being a paid member. There are multiple levels of paid membership which can be confusing. I’m back to being an unpaid member because even as a paid member it’s not working all that well for me. My partner has posted pictures within writing prompts and they do not show up to anyone else, although they do appear in her profile when she looks at it. She has reported this to tech-support and they did nothing about it. I do greatly appreciate the fact that OKC supports non-monogamous dating. And the very detailed questions and answers. A lot of the questions are worded in such a way though that it is difficult to answer them because the questions are vague or potentially confusing like they could be interpreted in completely opposite ways sometimes. And more of them need an intermediate choice instead of just yes or no. Finally, a strange behavior I noticed when we started new profiles not long ago, without any indication of this, the app assumes a person would reject every answer that differs from yours. You have to go back through and review all your answers and the answers you would accept, in order to change this.

Truthfully, I’m writing this review entirely because I think it may help my chances with the algorithm. I’m being honest because I don’t think that will effect it. OKCupid is all about the algorithm. I’ve had some success with likes and matches, but tried to moderate a friends account, which was shaped very similar to my own and despite A-list account status he saw maybe 2 likes a week. How could that be possible? There are absolutely people that swipe right on everything. OKCupid for whatever reason just wasn’t showing his profile to anyone. He was frequently active, communicating with the very few people he was connected with. As far as my account is concerned I’ll go through a dry spell where I’ll get 2 likes a week, and then get 30 likes in 2 days. The lack of consistency isn’t with my profile, it’s with whether or not OKCupid feels like showing people my profile. OKCupid is better than most online dating sites because there’s more detail on the people you’re meeting. That’s great. But online dating is hard enough and stupid from the perspective of dating in general. We shouldn’t also have to worry about whether our dating site wants to be nice to us or not regarding showing other people our profile, or have to worry about it arbitrarily passively blackballing us.

I have used many dating apps, none of them has turned into a marriage. I haven’t been back to this app in more than 4 years, but whenever people ask me where I met my husband, I was proud to recommend them OkCupid. I can’t imagine how people are dating now with Covid going on. But dating is a hard and brutal game. You gotta know yourself before anything else. I can't believe what a team we are and how we worked out, considering we were born in the opposite side of the globe, grew up in completely different culture and with 9 years of age difference. We had 91% compatibility on OkCupid. Our life goals align, but we are so different in many ways which make things interesting. We can talk to each other about anything, yet laughing at each other as some of the things we do are so “foreign” to each other, but then we realize that we indeed want the same thing, just have a different process. In today’s day and age, it’s so easy to get distracted. While we hold some principles tightly to our hearts, we also need to be patient and give people a chance to express themselves, and most importantly, listen and try to find that common ground. You never know who’ll surprise you and sweep you off your feet. Happy dating everyone. May we all find our soulmates.