Her is an ok app. It is a bit expensive and getting to your matches can be a little tricky without a subscription. My favorite part of the site is that I can use it as a trans woman to meet females and trans. Unfortunately, and this isn’t perhaps the fault of the her app, it can be tough market to meet up much with this app. I have zero problems meeting up with people on taimi and in the days when I had grindr no trouble there either, and I think I have met both more cisgender females and trans on both of those sites, strangely enough. Her’s primary user base isn’t as toxic as some others, but it also isn’t primarily geared to my demographic (although it gestures to being inclusive to a tran like me). Some of the females I have chatted with on her didn’t read my profile or said somewhat prejudicial things, but I’ve never been kicked off the app or anything. I just don’t think a lot of the women on her are looking for a trans woman, and if that’s you I don’t really know what to tell you as far as a solution. I see a lot more trans males on her than females, so I assume they are in a better position. it’s a lot easier to date men as a trans in my experience regardless of what app you use. However, I have had many likes and conversations and a few dates though her, and if you’re looking for your person, maybe you will meet her through this app. It’s definitely worth trying.

I had multiple issues in my brief experience with HER. First, they locked my account unprompted (the stated reason was my “network connection”?), and I had to send in my credentials via email to regain access to it. The biggest issue I had was with their user interface. It seems that they used to have a Notification Center in the app where you could see notifications such as when somebody matched with you and interacted with your profile. They no longer have this. So when I was sent Wildflowers by another user, the notification showed up as a Push notification on my phone but effectively disappeared once I navigated away from the interaction in the app, leaving no evidence of any interaction or Wildflowers. So that’s it? Goodbye, other user! Would’ve been cool to talk to you after you spent actual money to send me virtual flowers, but I guess I’ll never know. The nail in the coffin of my time on the app was the complete lack of assistance I received. The articles on their Support website still show that the app has a Notification Center…which it doesn’t. I contacted the support team and effectively got a “sorry but that’s just how it is.” Disappointment all around. A sapphic dating app is a much-needed addition to the world of online dating, but I think we deserve better than *this.*

They need to make this app focused on REAL people... there’s too many unverified people and you don’t know who’s real and who isn’t... There’s also NO interesting people in my area.. There’s too many people looking for a unicorn.. There are lots of people in relationships using this app... I don’t understand why they’re here if they looking for 3 somes... even if you report them, their profiles are still there. I reported someone twice and I believe all they did was block them from my end.. there’s no known bugs, but I believe the subscription is dumb too... I believed that I was getting the best subscription when I purchased platinum, but I needed gold to see the others who purchased subscriptions... that’s dumb... why not make it one subscription??? That way you’re not wasting our money... with the platinum all I could do was see my likes... I couldn’t update my location or search specifically like that... I couldn’t look at the people who were “in the spotlight “ and I also couldn’t click on the people who were interested in me.. so this app needs a lot of work... its far from perfect... I also believe they need a specific button (after verifying) that someone is a black user where we can choose whether we want to date interracially... they assume for us and it’s hard to weed out the bot profiles... in all, I feel like this app was a huge waste of my time... I didn’t meet ANYONE in the 2 months that I was on this app....