Quency: Birthday Reminders
Show up for those you love
Only for iPhone
Free · In‑App Purchases
iPhone
Quency is carved from frequency, and the name is our thesis.
Occurrence: how often you show up for a loved one. Quency is your frequency manager
Connection: how well you are tuned in to a loved one’s life. Quency is your showing up tuning fork.
Elevation: how high your actions resonate. Quency is your kindness amplifier.
WHAT QUENCY DOES
Half of showing up is knowing when. The other half is knowing how. Quency helps with both.
FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION OUTWARD
We live in a world that tells you the path to a longer, happier life runs inward. “Track your sleep, optimize your workouts, plan your meals, hone your practice, find your match.”
But eighty years of the longest-running study of adult life tells a different story: focusing your attention outside yourself and into relationships with loved ones is the number one predictor of your health, happiness, and wellness.
Showing up for your loved ones is the ultimate longevity self-maxxing.
KNOW WHAT MATTERS
The Loved One’s profile captures what matters to you and to them: your relationship, what you value in them, what they care about, what they have said in passing or screamed from the rooftop, and the dates that are significant to you both.
This dossier of friendship is a tool for helping you see what matters to your Loved One and preparing for when and how to show up.
KNOW WHEN IT MATTERS
The Coming Up calendar roll provides advance notice of your loved one's birthdays and other important dates so that you have time to plan and act.
The calendar roll consolidates every important event into a single view that is ordered by date proximity and can be viewed in thirty-day, ninety-day, or year increments.
You can also select the card icon to write and mail a card directly from the screen.
SHOW UP
The art of showing up is seeing your loved one clearly enough to know how to.
CARDS: Quency offers real birthday cards. Real paper, real envelope, real stamp, and your real thoughts.
ASTRO CIRCLE: Quency surfaces each loved one's star sign, suggesting how each might prefer to be shown up for.
freQ: The AI assistant that helps you aim your care: the plan, the words, the right read, so the way you show up fits the person you are showing up for. Coming next.
WHY QUENCY EXISTS
The founder spent a career as a Humanist Chaplain, sitting with people in their most vulnerable moments: illness, loss, crisis, the end of life. Those moments teach one thing with total consistency. When a person is in a vulnerable state, it matters who shows up. It is clocked. And the acts that register are usually small: the visit, the text that lands on the right day, the person who recognizes them in their situation.
Showing up is about seeing the other person. Having the answer is optional; recognition is everything.
Those moments teach a second thing. Most people in a vulnerable state were never given the tools to say how they need to be shown up for. The skill runs both ways, and almost everyone is carrying half of it. Quency exists to practice the whole skill: recognizing and practicing all the ways, big and small, of showing up for the people you love, and in the same motion, learning to recognize and express how you like to be shown up for.
Somewhere there is a person who would light up when you show up.
Quency is free for up to five loved ones. Unlimited loved ones is an auto-renewing subscription at $2.99 per month or $19.99 per year, charged to your Apple Account and renewing unless cancelled at least 24 hours before the period ends. Manage or cancel anytime in your App Store account settings.
Terms of Use: https://www.quency.love/terms
Privacy Policy: https://www.quency.love/privacy
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Information
- Seller
- BLUF House, LLC
- Size
- 18.2 MB
- Category
- Lifestyle
- Compatibility
Requires iOS 18.0 or later.
- iPhone
Requires iOS 18.0 or later.
- iPhone
- Languages
- English
- Age Rating
4+
- 4+
- In-App Purchases
Yes
- Unlimited loved ones, monthly $2.99
- Unlimited loved ones, yearly $19.99
- Copyright
- © 2026 BLUF House, LLC